As much as “cutting off” has become a huge trend for Millennials and Gen Z, it seems this habit might soon extend to the growing Gen Alpha. We have unconsciously developed a habit of keeping up our emotional walls, regardless of the genuine intentions friends or family members may have. It’s as if we’ve all become “red-flag” detectives, constantly focusing on an individual’s flaws while overlooking the countless good things they may have done or are still doing.
But, as Rick Warren says in Purpose Driven Life, “we were made for community and formed for a family.” That longing for a powerful, supportive group of friends is real, and seeing others thrive within such circles only amplifies our own desire for one. A strong community offers encouragement, a solid support system, and often inspires us to become the best versions of ourselves.
If you’re ready to break the cut-off habit and start building meaningful relationships, here’s how to take those first steps:
1. Let Go of Your Trust Issues
Building trust is often the first hurdle. Past disappointments can make us wary, but clinging to that mistrust only keeps us isolated. Start by allowing yourself to be vulnerable, even in small ways. Remember, building trust is a gradual process, and each positive interaction helps chip away at the barriers you’ve built. By letting go of trust issues, you open the door to deeper connections that last. Like the rapper, NF said, If you want trust, you gon’ have to give some away. You can’t earn what you haven’t given.
2. Get Out of Your Comfort Zone
True friendships aren’t built by playing it safe. Try reaching out to that new colleague, accept invitations even if you’re feeling shy, or join a club or community that interests you. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone might feel stressful but this is where authentic connections are often forged. Embrace the risk, and you may just find the people who make you feel seen, loved and supported.
3. Build a Confident and Positive Mindset Around Friendships
In a world quick to point out red flags, it’s essential to cultivate a mindset that’s open to the good in people. Focus on appreciating others’ strengths, even if they come with some imperfections. Confidence in friendships means understanding that everyone, including you, is a work in progress. A positive approach will not only draw people to you but also make it easier for you to build fulfilling, long-lasting relationships. Learn to see Green Flags too and be happy to see friendships thrive.
4. Release Past Trauma
We’ve all had friendships that went bad or sour due to one mishap or another. The pictures of past friendships become a trigger or template for other friendships after. We leave expectations on other friendships, watching their every step hoping that they fall into a mental trap you have set. Learn to be a non-manipulative person in your friendships because of past occurences. Give your new friends grace to be themselves while they learn to know you.
Let’s challenge the cut-off and cancel culture and prioritize building connections that uplift and empower us. Relearn new mindsets that support the power of community and not choosing to do life alone every single day We were made for community, after all.
